My daughter is at the stage where she hugs everyone that she meets and sometimes she hangs on them. Although it’s a very sweet gesture, some of these people are people that she does not know well. My daughter is a very personable and social child. While it’s a beautiful character trait, sometimes it scares me.
Over the weekend, we went to a Target in the Valley. This older lady who was clearly Korean (I am Korean, so I know my people) was walking by. My daughter who misses her grandma immensely ran up to her and gave her a big hug. Then she proceeded to have her sit down at her table and offered her drink and popcorn. The lady was really nice and we chatted for a good 30 minutes, but there are some psycho freaks that do run around in this world. You just don’t know and you can never judge a book by its cover.
I am super paranoid when younger and older males are overly nice to my daughter. They could be fathers themselves who relate, but I always think about those sickos that we see on Dateline’s “To Catch a Predator with Chris Hansen.” If you watch the show, a lot of these socially trustworthy males are the ones committing these sick acts. So I do not want to stick around to find out.
I am very protective of my children, but I am extra-extra protective in public environments because unfortunately we don’t have the capabilities of having every stat, background info, on each individual we come in contact with. As a parent, I have to keep an “eagle” eye out, and do everything in my power to keep my children safe.
Just the other day, my real estate agent could not make it out to the property we were viewing, so he had his associate come out for the showing. I met him briefly on one occasion, but I do not know him. When he walked up to the house, my daughter ran up to him with open arms and hugged him. She was very sweet but I was super paranoid that she gave a stranger a hug. The entire showing, I was thinking about the “talk” I was going to have with my daughter.
Could you imagine if I turned around for a second and some stranger snatched her? It makes me sick to my stomach to think about that. After the showing, in our car ride back home, I had a conversation with her. I told her that although she was being nice, there are bad people out there, and that she should not hug or talk to people that she does not know well. She is still very young and does not know the realities of ”bad” people. To her, everyone is pure, innocent, and nice. Unfortunately, there are crazy people in this world who do crazy things.
With all the recent kid-snatching here in California, it’s been a wakeup call for a lot of parents. You really cannot trust the strangers that are out there. As parents, we have to take all precautionary measures, for our children. I would love for my daughter to be free and be able to do what her heart inclines to do (give hugs), but the realities of our society is that there are dangerous people out there!






